Performing Is Not Living. And even children, who look like cute children, can be trained to perform as ACTORS.
Really, it can give one a bit of a shock these days: Performing Is Not Living But Fake-Living. Ever notice?
In today’s blogpost and comments, let’s explore how to avoid turning into…
One of those insincere, posing people!
Performing Is Not Living But Fake-Living. Example 1.
Really, Have You Noticed How Pervasive the Performing Mentality Has Become?
Streaming entertainment can make me want to start screaming. Simply due to all the performing.
Look, I don’t mind if a scripted show is obviously being performed. For example, “Murders Only in the Building“ doesn’t pretend to be real. Actually, the gorgeous costumes and gorgeous-er acting are deliciously camp! (Also, two of the three stars of the series are living in Spiritual Enlightenment.)
Performing Is Not Living But Fake-Living. Example 2.
How about this Second Kind of Theatrics? So-Called “Talk Shows”
Have you ever noticed how big-time “talk shows” have script writers. So that each guest for a “spontaneous” chit-chat has been rehearsed repeatedly with a producer.
All this happening long before the show ever happens. (Although that sneaky premise is sort of icky, when you think about it.) One of the TV talk shows I’ve done… had FOUR run-throughs about what my answers to questions should be.
Ask about my experience of that, if you like. Experience from doing 1,000 media interviews.
As you probably know, this blog — which recently reached 105,000 comments — is juicy because of all the COMMENT conversations. Thanks to folks like you.
At any point, COMMENTING away.
Instead, Do You Realize How Much Else You See Involves Performing?
During the pandemic, you might have seen more people on ads and commercials… than you spent time with in real life. How weird is that???
Also weird is how all those actors can seem so convincing. Even though Performing Is Not Living But Fake-Living!
Especially all those kids. Whether “eating” or “playing” or “smiling.”
I worry, what happens to our children who grow up watching all this.
Are they, and their elders (we adults), receiving an education in performing? As if that were a skill that all of us needed! Ick!
What have you noticed about this, parents and teachers? (And former educators. I know some of you are out there in our bloggy community.)
Please share your experience. Does it seem to you that some of today’s kids are counting the days until they can “go viral”?
Performing Is Not Living But Fake-Living. Example 3.
And It Gets Weirder, Regarding all the Fake-Living
Have you noticed this third form of performance fakery? So many people aren’t just living any more. Rather, they’re performing.
For instance, in their photos online. Rather than smiling for the camera or the YouTube video…
Quite different from Say Cheese. They’re posing!
Clearly, posing! And you can tell the difference, if you’re paying attention.
And, hello, what if you’re aiming for personal development? Or spiritual awakening? Or even Spiritual Enlightenment?!?
Then say no to fake-living. Don’t DO it. And don’t fall for other people’s performances, either.
Yikes!
Hiring — so many of my clients have been hiring. As a result, over the past year I’ve researched scads of auras from photos. Specifically photographs that professionals have at their websites. Not only professionals like the following, but plenty more:
- Accountists
- Dentists
- Divorce lawyers
- Interior designers
- Optometrists
- Proctologists
- Psychiatrists
- School principals
- Wannabe hookers (Joke, sorta. Evidently many women these days are all about sex, even if that’s not how they earn a living.)
Sadly, what have maybe 10% of these folks had in common?
Posing, That’s What!
Again and again, I encountered plenty of very fake smiles. Unfortunately, it turned out that most of these fake-smilers had messed-up auras to match. That is, one under-performing chakra databank after another.
- Sometimes lacking in integrity.
- Scary often, disconnected from objective reality.
Another way to put this? Quite a lot of everyday people, including professionals, have turned themselves into performers. Yet none of us is required to live that way, in a way that is…
Fake-Fake-Fake
A performance, not a person — all too often, that’s what you’re seeing on your laptop or monitor or screen.
Yet our default is to accept this as real. As if it were normal and human.
It ain’t.
Performing Is Not Living But a Poor Substitute: Fake-Living.
Even if you watch an hour of this nonsense, or more, every day…
Even then, you don’t have to numb yourself out in this way.
Use the following 5 tips to keep youself from being swept away from the Insincerity Fad.
Performing Is Not Living. For AUTHENTIC Living, Tip 1.
Stop Using that Fake Smile
Maybe you’re still practicing your smile in the mirror?
In which case, why? Are you still 12 years old?
Cut that out.
Authentic smiles are spontaneous. By contrast, some of the cringey smiles that I find in pictures that folks post online? Somebody had to practice these.
Maybe in COMMENTS below I’ll give three examples. Explaining why, from my perspective, a smile like this had to be practiced.
Interested?
Meanwhile, what if you’re not sure what a fake smile is? Check out the link just provided. This will take you to one of our most popular posts, the one on Fake Smiles.
In addition, you might enjoy this Energy Spirituality™ blogpost on Real Smiles.
Performing Is Not Living. For AUTHENTIC Living, Tip 2.
Choose Reality
In other words: Say things and do things in objective reality. Don’t live in your head.
Nor will it help your human life one bit, doing your best in preparation to move to the Snapchat Planet. ;-)
Perhaps Recall the Deservedly Famous Line from Yoda
“Do. Or do not. There is no try.”
Three cheers for Yoda from “Star Wars.” Perhaps the closest thing America has had to an Enlightenment Teacher in popular movies.
Although if you have other film characters who could rival Yoda, please COMMENT below. Maybe include adding a link to a YouTube sample.
Hear Yoda, speaking that line.
You can say things and do things. And that means, that you can say and do:
- Without an audience
- Zero attitude
- No performing
Performing Is Not Living. For AUTHENTIC Living, Tip 3.
When You Watch TV or Other Entertainment, Rage Against Being Sucked In!
Rage just a bit anyway. In the spirit of my favorite poem from Dylan Thomas, “Do Not Go Gentle into That Good Night.”
And yes, on that YouTube audio, supplemented by photos, you’ll hear him declaim like a traditional poet:
“Rage, rage against the dying of the light.”
Noteworthy, that was not playing a role. That was the bardic role!
Seems to me: Poets are proclaimers of truth.
Unless we’re reading a poem, let’s not proclaim. Let’s live.
Our Tip 3 Is Very Specific
How can you rage against all the fake living on your “entertainment”? No need to scream. Simply say out loud:
This is fake! This is a performance.
- Say this aloud, don’t think it.
- Repeat those exact words. In that way you’ll gather a certain subconscious momentum.
- Don’t keep making up elegant new ways of saying this. Literally use these specific words: This is fake! This is a performance.
Performing Is Not Living. For AUTHENTIC Living, Tip 4.
Stop Believing that Kids in Ads Are Real
Except for infants, these are all stage kids.
- They auditioned to get the part.
- Indeed, they practiced that goofy giggle.
- Somebody coached them to “sell” their childlike zest for the packaged breakfast cereal.
In my opinion, here’s the best way to view television children. Just say “Ick.”
Definitely understand these are Stage Kids. Not Real Kids.
Stories, anyone? At what point did you realize that these may be real children when not performing.
Otherwise? They’re playing children. Quite different.
Performing Is Not Living. For AUTHENTIC Living, Tip 5.
Just Say No to Instagram
Recently we’ve had quite some Comment Conversation about Instagram.
At this blogpost I’ll simply say this:
Are you a self-actualizing person? Would you like to use your full potential in life? Then avoid Insta. Avoid it like COVID-19.
Below I’ll re-post some of these warning comments about Instagram.
Feel free to add your additional comments below. Your perspective matters. Whatever you have to say about Insta.
In Conclusion, What Are YOUR Takeaways?
Thanks for reading all the way through to the end.
Just in case you’d like some questions to help you start COMMENTING below:
- Do you care about all the performing that people do?
- Do you just love it when folks post their Snapchat photos on social media?
- How about when they display their images with little twinkle stars? Personally, I wonder if they are trying to tell us if their auras are super-special. If so, do they have good skills of energetic literacy? I’m guessing not. Folks with gorgeous auras have their own auric modeling, no garish twinkle-stars needed.
- When you see people performing, do you think, “That’s what I want to do with my life.”
- If you’re an empath, do you think you can “always tell” when people are playing a role?
- If you’re a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP), do you find it draining if you have to be around people who are “Not positive”?
- Finally, these days, do you personally practice smiling in front of the mirror? Do you think this makes you more attractive?
Of course, you’re free to comment anonymously. At the start of your comment, in the first line, say what you’d like me to call you this time. Super-easy!
* Phone Addiction and/or YouTube Addiction
* Collective Attention Deficit Disorder
* People treating you like a Cardboard Cutout.
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* Widespread use of CBD products.
* Consciousness lifestyle problems for the majority of people today.
In short, JANICE HOOPER, this invisibility problem is more widespread than you might have thought.
Moreover, if you were to consider this as a disease in society… (not that I’m a social psychologist or otherwise credentialled to opine about this in a professional manner)…
Instead, speaking as a lay person — somebody who took some fascinating sociology courses when I attended Brandeis University, nothing more — what if you were to consider all the items on this previous list as evidence of a progressive disease in society?
Diseases, left untreated, can then worsen in a whole new way.
In my view, this is exactly what’s happening in today’s insistence in pop culture — today’s insistence on, even glorification of — Performing as a way of life. (Or a superior way of life.)
So thank you, JANICE HOOPER and WILL, and all of you who have been contributing to this thread.
This blogpost is a way to take a stand for authentic, spontaneous relationships. Rather than all the disgusting performances.
Personally, here’s one thing I’ve been doing lately.
When I watch TV or listen to the radio, there are commercials. (Obviously.) Which means professional announcers. (Ordinarily I enjoy their beautiful voices and crisp enunciation.)
Lately, though, I’ve noticed what I would call a performative aspect, layered over the regular announcement.
Instead of just hearing a showy, big, trained voice… broadcasting a message…
Now I’m hearing the following. And every time, I like to mimic the phoniness, while saying words to summarize the garishly performed subtext out loud:
* I’m so caring. (That is, the announcer.)
* This product is practically giving me an orgasm.
* What an amazing, amazing product. Maybe it comes from God?
* As your new best friend, let me confide in you that this sandwich (or whatever) is the most joy bringing experience EVER.
* I’m, like, totally confident and supremely excellent at everything I do in life.
* Looking PERFECT, like me, is something every smart person can attain. All you need do is buy the right product. (The smugness comes automatically. And it will make you feel excellent!)
* This product is just what you need to feel secure in your White (or Black, or Asian) identity.
* You’re suffering sooooooooo much. (That is, you, the audience for the commercial.) But this product will solve every woe.
* If you buy this, we could be friends. Automatically you’ll be part of the cool crowd!
Yech, you get the idea.
OMG, Rose, I love this.
I am totally talking this way to the TV now. So funny.
I was talking about Comments #209-215, by the way, in case my comments get out of order. :)
Reading your comments to Janice (the ones around Comment #204), I remembered something. I went on a date with this guy once, and he basically had the whole thing choreographed, down to his personality. I didn’t quite realize it until later.
Hooray! If you, OSCAR, or if other Blog-Buddies, can put other kinds of performer schtick into words, akin to what’s in Comment #211-214, by all means share in comments below.
I only chose a few quick examples, out of so many.
I was soooo uncomfortable the whole time.
I basically blamed myself until I realized what had happened. He did apologize for it, actually.
But how weird.
Such a sad way to create more loneliness.
OSCAR MANUEL, thank you for bringing this example to our attention. In your Comments #217, then #219-210.
Funny, how that worked out, speaking of how comments sometimes get out of order.
Seems to me, OSCAR, what your date did went beyond performing.
He hired himself as director. He directed every scene.
Beyond that, he directed you — his date — without your knowledge or consent.
No doubt there was no second date. ;)
Face reading is how I found your work, Rose. To this day I still am a huge fan of your system of Face Reading Secrets.
Could you write a little bit here about how face reading is about celebrating our souls?
I’ll admit, I find that a whole lot more meaningful than Instagram and all those other popular ways to play dress up with our faces.
NOREEN WILEY, what an excellent topic to bring up at this thread.
If many folks today are acting like wannabe reality show stars, actors or actresses…
It makes more sense to me than before how so many people are also, as you call it, playing “dress up with our face.”
Yowza, btw!
Since, if Gladys and Sam are actors, of course they are going to wear costumes and makeup… depending upon this performance.
By contrast, what if you’re aiming to live as a self-actualized person. Or you’re even “Seeking Enlightenment in the Age of Awakening“?
Then, what you’re doing is opposite to performing. Instead, you’re living.
Automatically, different qualities are involved in your day to day living:
* Curiosity
* Self-honesty
* Caring about other people, really caring about them.
* Building relationships, in contrast to making the entire emphasis on how much you are impressing the objects in your audience.
When we’re living, rather than performing, NOREEN, that’s when Face Reading Secrets® become fascinating.
Both reading the secrets about other people and also coming to appreciate the power, and even spiritual splendor, of your own ever-changing face.
This blogpost and Comments are so interesting and educational. I love the suggestion to say out loud, “This is fake. This is a performance.”
I’ve said it quite a few times already, and oddly, I find it very satisfying. I also noticed that saying it out loud somehow lessens the ‘ick’ reaction I feel when I watch or hear a show. Thank you so much, Rose!
If it helps, may it help.
Thanks, ANDREW.